Use Your Rejection as Motivation

                                                    MONDAY MESSAGE OF HOPE 35



Sometimes in life we feel rejected by people we are close and many we love. We feel worried when people look down on us. May be because you have not made anything in life, maybe because you made a particular mistake, maybe you failed etc . This then makes people to show you that you don’t have any worth; you are no longer in their level. Sometimes when you call them on phone or try to chat them, they snub you because they know that nothing good can come from you. This sometimes leaves you worried, abandoned and rejected. Rejection can be painful and disheartening but still can be a blessing in disguise. This is one of the most painful experiences one can undergo.

Are you in a situation where people try to discriminate you from others? Are you in a family where almost everyone looks down on you, maybe because you are poor or because they see that nothing good can come from you? Sometimes you feel assaulted. Sometimes the reason people insult you is because they have seen that you have nothing to offer.  Sometimes we are rejected because of a single mistake you made in the past. One of the worst feelings one can have is rejection and discrimination even from the people he loved and trusted. Do not sell your self-worth yet.

Many today are having problems with their friends and families, not because there is a major cause, but because they no longer see you to be in their level. Many are suffering greatly in their marital relationships and many are passing through divorce cases. So many today have been hated for no just cause, all because he or she is been looked down upon or because of what you may have done in the past. Rejections can cause psychological wounds, which is sometimes severe and affects your health even. Specifically, rejection causes emotional pain so sharp that it affects our thinking, floods us with anger, erodes our confidence and self-esteem, and destabilizes our fundamental feeling of belonging. This sometimes leaves you distressed and frustrated.

Many today suffer peer pressure too. They feel low esteemed when they see their mates rising and blossoming or when they see their classmates and course mates living big and enjoying life. Many now feel negative of themselves when they are with their peers, all because they think they are not up to their standards.

Beloved this is the time to pick up again. You are blessed more than you think. Guess what? You do not even know what the future holds for you. From today stop allowing someone’s attitude to affect your happiness, you are the architect of your mind. Laugh over them but take them as challenge to yourself. Always see whatever that is happening to you now as a way God is trying to make you better. If you are rejected or discriminated against because of a particular issue, use that thing as motivation to shame all your critics. Say no to whatever situation you are in presently and promise yourself you will get better. My beloved, stop crucifying yourself. Yes you do not have money; the rejection is telling you to fight your poverty. Yes you are rejected in a family because they think you do not have any future,  that time used in thinking it over and over again, use it to create your way and prove them wrong.

Beloved always know that how see you see yourselves is how others will take you. Stop looking down on yourself. You still have your tomorrow to take.  You are not dead yet and no one is your God. Always know that the greatest damage rejection causes is usually self-inflicted. Just when our self-esteem is hurting most, we go and damage it even further by thinking down on ourselves. Our natural response to being dumped by a dating partner, looked down upon, often neglected can make you intensely criticize yourself. Then we begin to call ourselves names, lament our shortcomings, and feel disgusted with ourselves. In other words, just when our self-esteem is hurting most, we go and damage it even further. Many are suffering from this today.

Beloved our life is in God’s hands and our hands not that of anybody else. Stop allowing their attitude to affect your destiny. Our life is also in our hands. What our lives will be tomorrow depends on us. Don’t waste your time crucifying yourself because someone dissociated himself or herself from you.  Those who reject you do not know who you are really. Only God knows who you are. Let what you are passing through make you stronger than weaker, let what you are passing through now motivate you to do more than killing yourself and dying in worry, let what you are passing through now motivate you to be better tomorrow than to become worse. Use that rejection as motivation. Prove your critics wrong. One day those who criticize you today, will still come back to celebrate you.

May God give you the grace to challenge your challenges, there must be victory at last. Always know  that there is  light at the end of every tunnel. God bless you dearest.

Fr. Sanctus Mario