When You Encounter Disappointments

Monday Message of Hope 37


 One of the chief sources of depression and mental stress is disappointment.  Disappointment occurs when one fails in his expectation from something or somebody. 

Disappointment is the feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations or hopes to manifest. Disappointment is one of the factors that affects man psychologically, emotionally, spiritually, socially and financially. Dealing with this problem sometimes seems like a stumbling rock. You may not know how it pains, until you become a victim of this cankerworm. Disappointment can be so depressing and painful that sometimes it affects us in whatever do.


Before the advent of this year, many set different types of goals only to be disappointed at last. One can encounter disappointment anytime and at any moment.  Sometimes the effects of this psychological factor can make you commit suicide. 


How do you feel when put all your trust in a business partner who seemed to be your friend, later you find out he is the real enemy in the lockboard. How do you feel when as a couple you trusted your partner, only to find out that he or she has been cheating and playing dices on you despite all you have done for him or her? How do you feel when you put  all your trust in someone only for you to find out that you have been betrayed ? How do you feel when put all your hope in someone to help you ,only to be disappointed at last ? How also do you feel when you have prayed, planned, set goals, studied yet failed? How do you feel when all your efforts seem not to be working?


At these moments, depression creeps in, worry becomes your daily food , you feel like dying, you feel like taking away your life. Sometimes you are in like someone in the middle of the sea. You don’t know again what to do. When things happen the way we do not expect,  we try to heap blames on ourselves and sometimes we blame God even; “Oh God has disappointed me”. This sometimes affects our faith and make us lose faith totally in God.



Disappointment can be fatal.  Disappointments deluge our daily lives. You are deeply hurt at this moment. It can drag you to start living in a negative world. 


The truth remains that  we can face disappointment without falling apart.  We can deal with this problem sometimes when it comes. Do not allow any situation though ugly it might be to take away your happiness. It may not be easy but take it as a life experience and dust yourself again. Don’t try to push it away. And don’t try to hide it under a big smile. Accept whatever might have happened, accept how you feel and why you feel that way. 


Remember, you are not a disappointment.Just because you may have been disappointed, had a setback or made a mistake and disappointed someone else does not mean that you are a disappointment or failure. This does not label you as a disappointment (unless you choose to put that label on yourself).If you keep moving forward and you keep taking action then you will move on and you will improve.


If someone has disappointed you, try and know the why behind what happened. Then correct it. Forgive him or her from your heart and let the past go. Even if you decide not to do anything with him or her again, save yourself from worry and forgive. Forgiveness sets us free. But do not forget to learn from every experience. Choose to see it more as something you can learn valuable things from and something that will help you to grow. Sometimes disappointments can be a blessing in disguise. At this point, you can take a break. Try to encourage yourself again. You can seek for advice. It is good to have someone you can share your problems with. Your happiness is the most important. Find ways to have it back. 


It is good also to note that life is not always rosy. In whatever we do, let us always expect the good and the bad, turn the bad into challenges and fight them. Let us not kill ourselves because something unexpected happened, always be prepared for the unexpected. Sincerely many of the things that do happen to us  can be blessings in disguise. We need to be calm, look into them and work on them. Beloved do not worry again. Take your lessons and move on.


There is always light at the end of the tunnel.

May God bless you dearest and give you the grace to overcome all your challenges Amen