Fr. Sanctus Mario
Inspiration and Bible Reflections

The love between Husband and Wife. Sunday Rice and Stew





Marriage is a sacrament, and a public commitment between a man and a woman. Marriage builds the family and the society.


The Church considers the expression of love between husband and wife to be an elevated form of human activity, joining husband and wife in complete, mutual self-giving, and opening their relationship to new life.


In conformity with the Six commandment, the church teaches us about the beautiful love that should exist between Husband and Wife.


In the beginning, God created them man and woman in his Image and Likeness he created them according to the scriptures in Gen 1:27. It therefore means that man carries the nature of God.


The love between husband and wife, according to the Church is better understood in a Christian marriage and not outside this union.


Sexuality is a major key factor in the love between husband and wife. Let us relax and digest this topic for us to achieve a desirable home or get a better home for those that are married already.


The catechism of the catholic church teaches us that “The acts in marriage by which the intimate and chaste union of the spouses takes place are noble and honourable; the truly human performance of these acts fosters the self-giving they signify and enriches the spouses in joy and gratitude.” CCC 2362.


It continues thus:


The Creator himself established that in the [generative] function, spouses should experience pleasure and enjoyment of body and spirit.


Therefore, in the love between husband and wife, the spouses do nothing evil in seeking this pleasure and enjoyment. They accept what the Creator has intended for them.


At the same time, in the love between husband and wife, spouses should know how to keep themselves within the limits of just moderation.


The union of every spouse aims at achieving just two main goal i.e the good of the spouse and the transmission of life.


These two main goals of the spouses cannot be separated without an alteration in both the couple’s spiritual life and compromising the goods of marriage and the future of the family.



The church further stress that the sexual activity which brings forth life in marriage is NOBLE AND WORTHY and Because sex is considered chaste only within context of marriage, it has come to be called the “nuptial act” in Catholic discourse.


Among Catholics, the nuptial act is considered to be the conjoining of a man and a woman through sexual intercourse, considered an act of love between two married persons, and is considered in this way, a gift from God.


The conjugal love of man and woman thus stands under the twofold obligation of fidelity and fecundity:




In the love between husband and wife Conjugal fidelity refers to the self-giving of the couple to themselves in all totality. This is established through the consent them declare before God and his people.


The church teaches in her catechism that “Fidelity expresses constancy in keeping one’s given word. God is faithful. the Sacrament of Matrimony enables man and woman to enter into Christ’s fidelity for his Church. Through conjugal chastity, they bear witness to this mystery before the world.” CCC 2365.


St. John Chrysostom suggests that young husbands should say to their wives: I have taken you in my arms, and I love you, and I prefer you to my life itself. For the present life is nothing, and my most ardent dream is to spend it with you in such a way that we may be assured of not being separated in the life reserved for us…. I place your love above all things, and nothing would be more bitter or painful to me than to be of a different mind than you.




Fecundity is a gift, an end of marriage, for conjugal love naturally tends to be fruitful. A child does not come from outside as something added on to the mutual love of the spouses, but springs from the very heart of that mutual giving, as its fruit and fulfillment.


So, the Church, which “is on the side of life” teaches that “it is necessary that each and every marriage act must remain open ‘per se’ to the procreation of human life.


This particular doctrine, expounded on numerous occasions by the Magisterium, is based on the inseparable connection, established by God, which man on his own initiative may not break, between the unitive significance and the procreative significance which are both inherent to the marriage act.”


Husband and wife should accept children willing, educated and guide them through the journey of life as part of their Christian duties.


But in a case where there is no child, the church advise the Husband and wife to serve God in that condition or adopt and abandoned child.


The church is never in support of techniques that entail the dissociation of husband and wife, by the intrusion of a person other than the couple (donation of sperm or ovum, surrogate uterus), are gravely immoral. These techniques (heterologous artificial insemination and fertilization) infringe the

child’s right to be born of a father and mother known to him and bound to each other by marriage. They betray the spouses’ “right to become a father and a mother only through each other.”


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May God bless you as you learn this teaching. Have a lovely Sunday.




  1. Amaechi Stephanie says

    Very well taught padre, thank you so much for all you do.

  2. Ginika says

    Thanks for the enlightenment. Pls what does the church say on the use of natural herbs/foods for family planning?

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