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Inspiration and Bible Reflections

Wife Responsibilities in Marriage



By Esther EE Ukpong


When you are offended, do not attribute bad motives to your spouse. Remember the four-magic word in Marriage. “Please, I am sorry”. Every Marriage has its times of crisis and it is for the couple to face that together. No one can face it for them. They are the one to make sure their Marriage work for themselves.



Pre-Marriage course is very good, I am not saying that the attendance at the Marriage course makes for perfect Marriages without crisis, No.



But it helps couples to get to know one another and, in that way, it helps them to make their Marriage a success.





One, out of many, respect your husband (Ephesians 5:33) says; But it also applies to you every husband that he must love his wife as himself, and every wife must respect her husband.



When you respect your husband, you regard him, prefer him and you reverence him. 



Be a helper to your husband, the Bible places emphasis on this responsibility for wives.



(Gen 2:18) Genesis tells us that God realized it wasn’t good for man to be alone, and that He decided to make a ” helper suitable for him” God has designed wives to help their husbands to  become all that is intended for them to be.


How do you see this?



Isaac and Rebecca understood they were made for each other, unfortunately many of us today are not proud of our partner (husband). Many are married because of the attachment as I said, that is why it’s affecting them.



Display of your affection to your partner gives him assurance that you are all and all as long as Marriage Relationship is concerned.




Sarah called her husband Lord without demanding for it because he played the Lordship role in her life. Abraham was not just a husband but also a father and lover to Sarah.



You, what do you call your husband? You call him ” Baby”   As you are calling him baby. Do you play the role of a mother?



Our mothers care for us, when we returned from School, our mothers will draw us closer, touch our head, neck, feel us to know whether we have developed temperature.



So, how do you feel with the one (spouse) you are calling baby/?



Wife is a mother to the husband. The Bible refers to as a virtuous woman, she played the motherly role in her husband’s life. (Proverbs 31:11) says; Her husband puts his confidence in her, and he will never be poor.



Underline the word “confidence”   that means He

acknowledged her position and believe in her.



In that same (Proverbs 31:23) says; her husband is well known, one of the leading citizens. What is this trying to tell us;  she takes good care of him.



She dresses him and make him look responsible, only mothers can do that. But very, very unfortunate, many of us (wives) today believe that it is only the husband that has the responsibility to take care of them.



Which is very wrong, a wife will buy dress of #45,000 and wear, then her husband will wear #15,000 dress to go out with her.  Is that a Virtuous woman? 



Husband and wife have a role to play in Marriage and Relationship it is  not a one sided affair hence is called a union. Marriage is what?  “Union.”



May God bless us.


Written by Esther E. E. Ukpong. 


Meet the Writer     

Esther E.E. Ukpong a Parishioner  of St. Thomas Aquinas Catholic Church, Okoko, Lagos, Married and blessed with Children. She is a counseling psychologist by profession ( M.ED ) and a Soldier by Vocation, School Counselor and Marriage Counselor as well. She is also a writer and a  Chorister.

Books written by : How to make your wife love you and How to make your husband love you.


  1. Judith chiamaka ezeofor says


  2. Okeke Chioma Agatha says

    Nice one

  3. Ekwem Emmanuela Chiamaka says

    👍 God bless you 🙏

  4. Ofoma Onyedikachi says

    God bless you for sharing these facts with us

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