Fr. Sanctus Mario
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What We say About Others: Breakfast With the Word


Breakfast With the Word Saturday After Epiphany


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John 3:22-30


What we say about others sometimes reveals who we are. When you meet someone who derives joy in backbiting others, saying only negative things about people who come close to him or her, always know that such a person hardly sees anything good in anyone. You may be surprised that one day, you will also be the topic of the day.


When we meet someone who despite however you try to paint others black but he or she still finds something good about the person and hardly joins in such discussions, always know that such a person must be one of great virtue.


The truth is that people will always bring topics daily for us to talk about. But like John the Baptist, what we say about others must not be negative.


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Epiphany of the Lord: The Manifestation of the Child Jesus



The Gospel.



In today’s gospel, Jesus goes with his disciples into the Judaean countryside and then was baptising the people. Also, at the same time John was baptising at Aenon near Salim, where there was plenty of water, and people were going there to be baptised.
  There arises among John’s disciples a discussion with a Jew about purification, so they go to John and report that the man to whom he bears witness, is baptising now; and everyone is going to him.’In essence, they are referring to Jesus.
  John replies to them that a man can lay claim to only to what is given him from heaven.
He tells them plainly that He is not the Christ. He is the one who has been sent in front of Him.


1. First of all John joins in the epiphany of Jesus by revealing to the people that Jesus is the Christ, the Messiah they have been waiting for.



2. Secondly, from the gospel of today, we are surprised to see both Jesus and John baptizing “side by side”.


In this gospel of John 3: 22-30 it is quite clear that the disciples of John may not be comfortable with this. So, they report this to their master, John the Baptist.



When John heard this, He would have been jealous of Jesus or begins to see Jesus as a rival.


Many of us would have reacted to this report, seeing the other as a rival. John the Baptist plays the highest level of maturity here not necessarily because he wants peace to reign but because of who he is. He knows himself well. He knows that his mission is different from that of Jesus.


John understands what he comes to do in the world. Instead of seeing negatively in what Jesus is doing or reacting negatively, He praises Jesus all the more.

John simply says that his joy is now complete.

That Jesus must grow greater, and He will grow smaller.’


John’s reaction to this report reveals a lot about him. John promotes Jesus the more and reveal more about him. Instead of praising himself or seeking relevance, John was praising Jesus Christ, which is a sign of humility and understanding. How many of us can do this today?




No one can question the humility of John the Baptist after today’s gospel. John understands His role very well. Instead of John going behind or finding a way to talk bad about Jesus, nor trying to see Him as a rival, John concentrated on his mission.




Here, John is teaching us that if we all should concentrate on our mission, call, gift, talent, etc, there will be no room envy, jealousy and backbiting. Your mission and the mission of the other person is not the same. Therefore, we have to focus on our journey.

Also, what John said , revealed a lot about him.



In essence, what we say about others and how we react to some stories about others, also reveal a lot about us.



We have Our Own Mission.

John the Baptist

We also have our mission on earth. Let us pay attention to what we are here to do. If we can pay attention to our different callings, works, mission, etc, if every man on earth can judiciously face the tasks that are before him/her, no one would have time for envy or jealousy.


What we say about others also reveals that we are either in support of them or that we are jealous and envious of them. Even when people tell lies about someone, because we do not like the person, we often join in destroying his/her image.


The time we spend thinking on how to pull others down, if used to think about ourselves, will yield something more positive. A philosopher says that If you do not have something nice to say about others, keep the mouth shut.



How many times have we been judgemental about the other person? Sometimes our judgements could also be driven by jealousy and insecurity. Sometimes this projects a high level of immaturity and inferiority complex.


When people tell you about others, they are invariably trying to fill a psychological vacuum which sometimes exposes their insecurity.


Let us always be wary of what we say about others at their back. If you have anything against someone, call the person in question and talk to him/her.


Bearing grudges, thinking bad, and destroying people’s image will never give any positive result. If you have the problem of bearing grudges, you can read my post on letting go of your grudges.



Promote the Good.


In referring to Jesus, John the Baptist says “He will increase, while I decrease”. This is a word from a humble man, who understands that no matter what Jesus does, it can never affect His mission.


This is a word from a man, who knows that the best thing in life is to promote something good you see in the other.


John the Baptist is a model here in terms of “pull him/her down mentality”. There is something good in us and there is also something good in the other person. Let us always focus on the good and promote them.


When there is a lack, it is good to call the person to order and advise him/her. I believe that we can win a person’s respect and love than backbiting him/her.


No one comes into the world without a gift, a talent or mission. Let us spend more time to discover them and work in togetherness for God’s kingdom. It will yield more fruit and results than all these unnecessary competitions.



May God through His mercy give us the grace to overcome every temptation and never to give up in life. Amen




  1. Ibe Calista Chinenye says


    1. Anyiam Cornelia says

      Lord Jesus, deliver me from spirit of grudges and malice, may I see you in my fellow brothers and sisters and love them as you have loved me through Christ our Lord amen.



    3. Dorothy Mary Iyinbor says

      Amen thanks Padre

  2. Ekwem Emmanuela Chiamaka says


    1. Amalu Gloria says

      Amen and Amen

  3. Henry says


  4. Adesanya Ayodeji Mary says

    Amen. Lord great me the grace to know my mission on earth.

  5. Onukwugha Florence says

    God Please give me the Grace to Promote any good thing I see in others and not to pull them down.Also Grace to overcome temptation and never to give up in life. Thanks so much Father for this reflections and inspiration messages .May God bless you the more.

  6. Mbama Christiana says

    May the Lord continue to strengthen you Padre. Amen. Thank you for this beautiful reflection.

  7. Obianamma noeleen says

    Amen. Thank you Jesus for your word,may God grant us the grace to spend more time discovering our purpose rather than backbiting.

  8. Emmanuel ChimezieChidoka says

    Amen. Thank you Padre

  9. Mailoushi James says

    Amen, may God help us to always promote the good deeds in others

  10. Eze, Blessing Chinasa says

    Amen. Thank you Father.

  11. CHARLES EZEJI says


  12. Onyekonwu Ngozi says

    Oh my God please grant me grace of speaking good about people and shurn any attitude of speaking ill against them. Thank you Jesus for your word this morning.

  13. Obika Chidimma says

    Amen, thanks Fr.

    1. Helen says

      Amen and Amen! Thank you Padre.

      Dear Lord, please help us to stay true to ourselves and mission here on Earth. 🙏

  14. Nwoye Ngozi says


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  16. Ibeawuchi Ugochi says


  17. Chisom Egwudike says


  18. Nneka Ugwu says

    The key word here is humility, let’s us learn to be humble and focus on only seeing the good in one another so that the negative energy will die a natural death. May the good continue to guide our minds and thoughts so we can focus on the positive aspects of life. Amen.
    Thanks Fr for this wonderful piece.

  19. Adeline Chidimma says

    God help me to stop backbiting my fellow human being but give me the grace to let go and spirit of correcting and accept corrections through Christ Our Lord Amen

  20. Ifeoma Ugwueze says


  21. Precious says

    Amen!!! May the Lord help us to always speak good of one another.

  22. Carmela U. Ekwem says

    Amen! & Amen! Thanks & God bless you Fr for the msg… May God in his infinite Mercy give us the grace to discover our various gifts, talents & Mission and put them to work according to his will, & all to his glory, Amen!

  23. Adichie Chizoba says

    Amen and Amen. Encouragement is the key

  24. Blessing Chilo says

    Thank you Lord for another with your word which brings life anew each time we hear. Give us the grace to love others as we love ourselves genuinely and make conscious efforts to desist from saying malicious things about them just to discredit them. Amen


    May God give us his grace to always see the good in people and promote it and the courage to avoid grudges and backbiting knowing fully that the rise of others can never bring our downfall. Amen

  26. Peter Anthony Dodoh says


  27. Angela Madu says

    Amen and Amen
    When we are saying bad about others, trying to paint them black, we are also painting ourselves black too.
    It pays to be humble, with humility, one achieve a lot in life.We loose a lot in Beijing proud. It is not good for one to claim what one is not. Rather we should endeavour to no ourselves, work with our gifts to the glory of God.
    May God help us through Christ our Lord .A men

  28. Ogechi Anugwom says

    Amen 🙏

  29. Ugwu Obianuju says


  30. Clara says

    Amen. Thank u once again Padre. More grace.

  31. Blessing Iortsugh says

    Amen and Amen, thank you fr. U have spoken to my soul and I pray that the Lord will help me to be the doer of his word not only the hearer in Jesus name amen.

  32. Okwuchi Juliet says

    Amen. God please give me the Grace of Humility and not being envious of others .

  33. Nwabueze chioma says


    Thanks fr for this wonderful words, and am begging God to help me put it in practice Amen

  34. Michael Jones says

    Thank you father.

  35. Amara says


  36. Dr Chinwe Agwoile says

    Amen! May my prayer blend with yours, Padre, so I’ll avoid being judgmental about others. May I always chose my words during discussions to avoid unnecessary criticisms, scandal and presumptive sins. May God give me the grace to speak with love or maintain silence whenever I can’t. Amen! Daalu rinne!

  37. Regina Mobu says


  38. Chikwendu Olivia says

    Thanks for the topic. It is an encouragement and strength to me.

  39. Munachimso onuoha says


  40. Anujue Ifeanyichukwu Godwin says

    May God grant us His grace to value other people’s destinies.Amen

  41. Ani Chinonyelum says

    Well done Padre, God bless you


    Thankful for this message! May our Lord Jesus through the intercession of John the Baptist grant us humility and courage to always speak good of others!

  43. Ezeagu Anuli says

    Amen, God give us the grace to discover our individual talents and use it to the glory of God’s name

  44. Thres Rock says



    May the Holy Spirit inspire us to focus on our mission and promote the good in others.

    Thank you very much Father for this wonderful reflection.

  46. Anthonia Okonkwo says


  47. IKPO Maryann says

    Help us Lord Jesus.

  48. IKPO Maryann says


  49. Jane says

    Amen and may he help me keep my mouth from saying bad of others.amen

  50. Mercy E Johnny says

    Amen, Lord Jesus Christ meek and humble of heart, make my heart like yours. Amen

  51. Ugwu Grace Ngozi says

    Amen, God bless you Fr

  52. Mary says

    Amen. More grace Lord

  53. Ighekpe Agbodesi Winifred says

    May the holy spirit of God reign in my heart to always reject sin of back biting other people Amen, shalom Padre

  54. Prince Gee says

    You really said it all. We need to uproot every form of evil (including but not limited to envy and jealousy) from our lives and always represent the truth vis-a-vis everybody…, regardless of how his/her /their presence or good qualities rattle/intimidate you or your seeming lower endowments… QED!

  55. Eririogu FideliAa says

    Amen. Thanks father

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